A Healthy Body Begins With A Healthy Mind

For years I thought I only had Daddy Issues to heal in myself.

And then I came across the book, Mother Hunger, by Kelly McDaniel, that gave me the verbiage and understanding about my Mommy Issues that needed some attention.

What are Mommy & Daddy Issues?

Mommy & Daddy Issues are old patterns of beliefs or old emotional energies that have become stuck somewhere in our bodies or our energetic fields.

These old patterns try to get our attention through current-day problems, such as relationship struggles, money issues, chronic pain, illness, anxiety or anger.

Examples of Daddy Issues

• Patterns of choosing unhealthy or abusive or emotionally unavailable partners
• Use sex to feel love or connection
• Difficulty setting healthy boundaries
• Date or marry someone much older than yourself
• Trust issues
• Afraid of being alone
• Possessive or clingy; co-dependent relationships
• Afraid of being vulnerable
• Don’t feel safe

Examples of Mommy Issues

• More male friends; few female friends;...

Love can be so conflicting, so confusing.

We want love, but we are also afraid of it.

We know we need love, but we also push it away.

We know love will help calm us, but we reject it.

We know love is powerful, but society teaches us that it will make us weak.

We are told by our parents that they love us (at least most parents tell us this).

But most parents are also tired, cranky & stressed out. They don’t even love themselves. Their Love Tanks are empty. How can they possibly express love to us? Sometimes all they have left in them is to tell us they love us, while their stressed out behaviors tell us a different story.

Kids pay more attention to actions than words. Words can deceive. Words can confuse.

When kids begin to associate “love” with hurt feelings, being ignored, walking on eggshells, yelling, being abused, etc., then “love” can feel very unsafe.

Fast forward to adulthood. We never learned how to process our emotions. We never learned how...

[Medical Disclaimer: The information contained in this Blog Post is not meant to be Medical Advice. Please see your Primary Healthcare Provider if you need Medical Advice or Assistance.]

Every week, I get asked from someone, “What should I do to heal my  _____?”

That “blank line” usually contains one of the following:

• Insomnia, Fatigue, Brain Fog
• Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Mood Swings
• Hormones, Hot Flashes
• Lyme Disease or other Chronic Illness
• Chronic Pain
• Auto-Immune Disease
• Cancer

Here’s my BEST advice for everyone: Ask your Inner Guidance System!

We ALL have a built-in resource that gives us our best answers for everything, and I call this our Inner Guidance System. It never fails us!

We usually ignore or override this system, and instead do what someone else tells us to do.

Going against our Inner Guidance System can leave us feeling exhausted, disappointed, angry with ourselves, anxious, and/or feeling dis-trustful of ourselves &...

Each of us deals with overwhelming emotions from time to time. For some of us, it can feel like we are on a constant roller coaster of emotions (anxiety, frustration, worry, irritation, resentment, jealousy, anger, fear).

But there is a big difference between shedding a few tears while watching a movie and avoiding certain situations and people because your emotions are controlling your life.

When emotions get out-of-control and we continue to stuff them or cover them up or ignore them, the energy from these emotions will eventually show up in our body as a physical symptom that you don’t like (headache, sore throat, fever, allergies, stomach ache, joint pain, high blood pressure, hot flashes, insomnia, mood swings, etc.).

And this is a tragedy worth crying about.

The good news is, it doesn’t have to be this way.

Overwhelming emotions (anxiety, depression, anger, frustration, etc.) are often a sign of fear-based thought patterns and belief systems that we put into place...

Have you ever been in pain, or been sick with an illness or disease, and searched for the cause?

• Why or how did you get sick?
• Do you have a chemical imbalance or a nutritional deficiency?
• Are your hormones out of balance?
• What caused your pain?
• How did you get this illness or disease?
• Did you “catch” it from someone you were around?
• Were you exposed to toxic chemicals?
• Did you eat certain foods that made you sick?
• Did a product or medicine make you sick?
• Did a certain treatment make you worse?
• Were you exposed to a certain pathogen (yeast, virus, bacteria, parasite) that made you sick?

Most people who are in pain or sick will seek medical advice to learn the cause of their pain or illness.

In the medical world, doctors are taught to run series of tests to give you this information. Sometimes it can take years to figure out the “cause.” The more searching that is done, the more the search costs in terms of time, money, and your health.

And while I believe...

The Road to Wellness is completely backwards from what I used to think it was. Yep, #Backwards.

 Here’s a fun list of what I USED to believe about health:

• You have to eat healthy to be healthy
• You have to exercise to be healthy
• Taking prescribed medication is BAD
• Using chemicals on your lawn is BAD
• Using chemicals in your house will KILL you
• Getting vaccinations will HARM you
• Using plastic will HARM you

I could go on, but I’m sure you get the picture. I USED to be AGAINST a lot of things, and I took every precaution to avoid everything “bad,” while eating as healthy as I could and exercising regularly.

And then I got sick anyway. WTH???

Now, don’t get me wrong, I did the best I could at the time. And I especially believe that eating healthy and exercising regularly helped me feel better most of the time. But when my emotional stress got the best of me, none of the other “healthy” things worked.

On my road to wellness, I’ve had...

1. Get the message and move on
   
   
2. Ignore/Distract (soften)
   
   
3. Pivot and move towards a better feeling

Pain is a big industry. A lot of time and money gets dumped into searching for answers to or merely managing pain. At some point in our lives we all experience pain. We are taught to deal with pain in various ways: walk it off, take a product to help it go away, numb ourselves with food/alcohol/drugs.

But what if your pain was simply a message? And what happens when you ignore messages? They tend to get bigger, more obnoxious, more in-your-face. The more you ignore something important, the greater the chance that it snowballs out-of-control. This message is trying to get your attention. It won’t stop until you finally get the message that something is out-of-balance, something needs to change in your life.

As a mind-body doctor, I’ve had to personally confront my own messages. At first I ignored the messages, thinking they were going to be too scary. We all do this. It’s...