Forgiveness can be such a misunderstood topic.
Your ego convinces you to forgive in a way that makes you feel like the better person, but doesn’t allow you to forget the pain (or what the other person did to you). Thus, you continue to poison only yourself by holding on to the emotional pain. Nice job, ego! I felt better for about 2 seconds…
On the other hand, A Course In Miracles (ACIM) teaches you to forgive AS THOUGH THE EVENT NEVER HAPPENED. Big difference. This form of forgiveness isn’t meant to give a pass to the other person. It’s meant to free YOU! While you still hold onto the emotional pain, you continue to harm only yourself.
The ego’s version of forgiveness keeps you in “victim mode.” You continue to attract to yourself more things to feel victimized about.
ACIM’s version of forgiveness allows you to move on. It feels like freedom. It allows your body to heal. It allows you to see things differently. This is HUGE. This is...
I recently met a new friend. We chatted easily, got to know each other better, and exchanged information that would help both of us in an area we both are passionate about – climate change.
And then as we were parting ways, she asks if it was possible that she was making herself sick with her thoughts. I asked her to tell me more about her suspicions.
She told me that she felt she was increasingly becoming more sick with “something.” She didn’t know what that something was. More fatigue, more colds, no energy, not sleeping well. Totally stressed out.
And then she explained that she was working 75-80 hours per week. She was on assignment with a big project. In 2 months, she would be assigned to a different project in a different part of the country.
She told me she didn’t think she could keep up with her current pace. She craved more “balance” in her life. She wanted some free time to rest, relax and rejuvenate.
Basically, she wanted to tell...
Change. What does this word symbolize for you? Fear, dread, annoyance, panic, irritation, maybe even a little motivation to control the situation so nothing really changes?
Yet change must occur if we are to grow, evolve, gain wisdom, and just feel alive.
Your ego, that fear-based portion of your self, wants to block change at all costs. Your ego convinces you that change is scary. Your ego makes you believe that you are safer if everything remains the same.
Yet your true inner Self wants and needs change in order to grow, evolve and feel alive. Your true inner Self craves new and different experiences. Your true inner Self guides you energetically towards your wants and desires (better health, harmonious relationships, meeting new friends, new career, more money, peace, joy, fun).
We learn from other people (and their egos) how to control our surroundings so that we don’t allow change. You want to be healthier…nope, it’s too scary. You want a new career…...
Winston Churchill once said, “You can always count on the Americans to do the right thing…after they have tried everything else.”
This reminds me of what we are taught about health, disease, and our bodies in general. From a young age, most of us learn to “take something” if we are not feeling good. Taking something might include some type of herb, supplement, over-the-counter remedy, prescribed medicine, or other type of drug (legal or otherwise).
We are taught that our health depends on something “outside” of us, as if we couldn’t be healthy otherwise.
In medical school, future doctors are trained that prescribed medicine is what the body needs when it is in a state of illness or disease.
In chiropractic school, future doctors are trained that a chiropractic adjustment and good nutrition are what the body needs when it is in a state of illness or disease.
And while all of these things can help us feel better, the benefits are...
Have you ever been in pain, or been sick with an illness or disease, and searched for the cause?
Most people who are in pain or sick will seek medical advice to learn the cause of their pain or illness. In the medical world, doctors are taught to run series of tests to give you this information. Sometimes it can take years to figure out the “cause.” The more searching that is done, the more the search costs in terms of time, money, and your health.
And while I believe you should seek medical attention...
Trust is one of those topics that can bring up a lot of fear and anger within us. Rarely is someone calm and peaceful when they think of trust, because we tend to think about all of the ways our trust has been trampled upon.
One online definition of trust is this: firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something.
So “Who” or “What” is this someone or something that we placed our trust in, only to be hurt and disappointed by? The list can be quite long:
I used to have a lot of sensitivities. Food sensitivities, chemical sensitivities, odor sensitivities, and even people sensitivities (lol). The term in the modern world is Multiple Chemical Sensitivities.
It seemed that everything bothered me, made me feel icky, or gave me a headache. And my list of bothersome things kept growing longer. More and more things in my environment were irritating me. I thought that it wouldn’t be long before I would need to retreat to my own little shack or safe haven in the woods in order to “protect” myself from the outside world.
Does this sound like you?
I stayed away from certain stores and malls because the air freshener they used gave me an instant headache.
I yelled at my husband every time he used air freshener in his car.
We couldn’t use any chemicals in our house or in our yard.
I restricted my family’s diet by only purchasing certain “safe” foods.
I wouldn’t allow over-the-counter medications in...
The Road to Wellness is completely backwards from what I used to think it was. Yep, #Backwards.
Here’s a fun list of what I USED to believe about health:
I could go on, but I’m sure you get the picture. I USED to be AGAINST a lot of things, and I took every precaution to avoid everything “bad,” while eating as healthy as I could and exercising regularly.
And then I got sick anyway. WTH???
Now, don’t get me wrong, I did the best I could at the time. And I especially believe that eating healthy and exercising regularly helped me feel better most of the time. But when my emotional stress got the best of me, none of the other “healthy” things worked.
On my road to wellness, I’ve had...
Pain is a big industry. A lot of time and money gets dumped into searching for answers to or merely managing pain. At some point in our lives we all experience pain. We are taught to deal with pain in various ways: walk it off, take a product to help it go away, numb ourselves with food/alcohol/drugs.
But what if your pain was simply a message? And what happens when you ignore messages? They tend to get bigger, more obnoxious, more in-your-face. The more you ignore something important, the greater the chance that it snowballs out-of-control. This message is trying to get your attention. It won’t stop until you finally get the message that something is out-of-balance, something needs to change in your life.
As a mind-body doctor, I’ve had to personally confront my own messages. At first I ignored the messages, thinking they were going to be too scary. We all do this. It’s...
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